Learn to recognize and stop the child alienation drama!
The Alienating parent will exhibit specific behaviors, signs and symptoms than those of the children and the target parent. The following examples of Alienators behavior are called Red Flags. The more of these a parent exhibits or enacts, the higher the probability of parental alienation syndrome is occurring.
Makes accusations of abuse against Target Parent’s new partner.
Makes accusations of abuse against Target Parent’s extended family.
Makes accusations of abuse against Target Parent’s consequent children or children of new partner.
Contacts Target Parent’s extended family in presence of child(ren) to make false allegations of abuse/neglect/PAS.
Refuses to allow child to give gifts/notes/paintings/letters to Target Parent, new partner, children or extended family.
Alienator is constantly rude, nasty, controlling and dictates when, where and what the Target Parent can do with the kids during their time. This attitude is also permeated to the children who are rude, nasty, controlling and dictate when, where and how they will spend their time with the Target Parent.
What children of divorce most want and need is to maintain healthy and strong relationships with both of their parents, and to be shielded from their parents’ conflicts. Some parents, however, in an effort to bolster their parental identity, create an expectation that children choose sides. In more extreme situations, they foster the child’s rejection of the other parent. In the most extreme cases, children are manipulated by one parent to hate the other, despite children’s innate desire to love and be loved by both their parents.
Parental alienation involves the programming of a child by one parent to denigrate the other targeted parent, in an effort to undermine and interfere with the child’s relationship with that parent, and is often a sign of a parent’s inability to separate from the couple conflict and focus on the needs of the child. Such denigration results in the child’s emotional rejection of the targeted parent, and the loss of a capable and loving parent from the life of the child. Children’s views of the targeted parent are almost exclusively negative, to the point that the parent is demonized and seen as evil.