What a parent does when trying to alienate children from the other parent
The Alienating parent will exhibit specific behaviors, signs and symptoms than those of the children and the target parent. The following examples of Alienators behavior are called Red Flags. The more of these a parent exhibits or enacts, the higher the probability of parental alienation syndrome is occurring.
Refuse to allow the Target Parent any contact with Professionals who are in support of the Parental Alienation Syndrome parent
Not allowing the children to participate in activities, where they may come into contact with children associated with the Target Parent.
Will instruct the school that the Target Parent is not to be trusted, inferring or clearly stating that the Target Parent has lied to others about the Parental Alienation Syndrome parent and children, including putting notes in school files about not allowing contact or pick up by Targeted Parent.
If cornered about providing Target Parent’s information for school records, Protective Services or any other official, the Parental Alienation Syndrome parent will give false or misleading information.
Parental Alienation Syndrome parent has removed pages from a child’s classroom journal that fail to support Parental Alienation Syndrome parent’s ideology and/or support the Target Parent.
Totally controlling the children’s social life
Becoming overly involved with the children’s activities i.e. cub leader, parent support worker so that they are constantly with the children and keep the other parent from attending these activities.
Lie to the children about the separation/divorce including by giving details that are obviously untrue which deliberately impede the child’s ability to love the other parent i.e. dad spends all his money on his girlfriends so I can’t afford to let you go to camp.
Involve the children in all the aspects of the separation, divorce and on going legalities whilst claiming the child has the right to know what is happening
Claiming the Target Parent is victimizing, stalking, abusing, and harassing them to the point of actually involving the police. Filing of false allegations of abuse, making false and repeatedly harassing complaints to child protective agencies, police and others so as to constantly put the Targeted Parent under attack and investigation.
Encouraging the child to support the Parental Alienation Syndrome parent to lie to authorities on how they are treated when with the Target Parent even though there is no evidence of poor treatment, but just the reverse
Encourages the child to be defiant, to go on strike, to not comply with the reasonable rules when in the presence of Target Parent.
Parental Alienation Syndrome parent deliberately organizes activities for the children on the Target Parent’s visitation time i.e. parties, outings and social gatherings.
The Parental Alienation Syndrome parent will use bribery and enticements to prevent a child from visiting with the Target Parent, and make the child feel guilty for wanting to be with the Target Parent rather than attend an event the Parental Alienation Syndrome parent has organized to happen during Target Parent visitation time.
Not allowing the children to have photos of or objects provided by the Target Parent in the house. The Parental Alienation Syndrome parent will destroy any gifts, photos etc should the child bring them home.
When the child receives gifts from the Target Parent and takes them home to show the Parental Alienation Syndrome parent, the Parental Alienation Syndrome parent refuses to allow the child to take them back to the Target Parent’s house or keep them.
Parental Alienation Syndrome parent refuses gifts from the Target Parent and his family, actually making the children return them saying they are no good or cheap or useless and so on.
Parental Alienation Syndrome parent will deliberately condemn the target parent’s gifts or purposely purchase them ahead the target parent so that the target parent’s gift is meaningless.
The Parental Alienation Syndrome parent changes the child’s surname to the new dads name without asking or notifying the birth father.
Parental Alienation Syndrome parent will attend Target Parent’s family functions without prior invite despite knowing that their behavior will be viewed negatively. The Parental Alienation Syndrome parent will use this negativity to inform the children of the Target Parent’s family’s hatred of them.